The other day while browsing through the internet I noticed that I was feeling down after a while. After thinking, I then realized it was because of some posts I was reading from other people in social media. I took a step back and browsed through it some more, and started wondering how much of what was written there was true. How much of it was just the way it was stated, and not exaggerated by the tiniest bit…
I joined Facebook a few years ago after vehemently denying to join it and rejecting all of the invites from my friends abroad. After successfully doing so for about three years, I reluctantly gave in and joined – it seemed to be like the easiest possibility to keep in touch with friends spread all over the places and share pictures and see how they were doing. Back then, to be honest, it really was like that. You shared important things of your life with each other and that was it.
After a while things started to change. Those quotes started to come up. Foodporn pictures were uploaded. Unimportant info was shared. Statements about anything and nothing.
And then, it changed again. Everyone now seems to have the best friends ever, the most loving husband, the cutest children and pets, the most amazing home and the greatest holidays ever. Everything is boosted to the top, more so, over the top it seems.
I felt startled – at some point after reading about everyone’s amazing lives (or organized homes here on WordPress!!!) you start feeling bad. You start thinking that your life is not as amazing as these persons lives. And this is where you need to stop if this has happened to you as well!
The grass always seems to be greener on the other side of the fence. But everyone has their own little burdens to carry around. Everyone struggles in one way or another with anything. And not everyone is sharing that – and that’s what I needed to remind myself of.
Maybe someone might get the feeling that my life is also the most amazing thing ever (although, I don’t think that by looking through my pictures of the Endless-Tidy-Up-Challenge will give anyone such a feeling *lol*). The thing is that you can edit pictures and make them prettier than they actually are. By the way you describe yourself and your life, you can pimp it up by leaving out your struggles and only describing the good things that happen to you. But let me tell you one thing right now:
No, my life is not as amazing as you think it is!!!
I also struggle with things. I also have quite some burden to carry around. I’m also just a regular person on this planet, nothing special. But the secret is: accept yourself the way you are and love yourself because you ought to be the most special person to yourself! And that way, you can take a step back and have a different view on things, and social media won’t get you down anymore.
Last week I went for a walk – the day was gorgeous and there were no clouds in the sky. I stood there looking at some fire red leaves against the blue sky – and felt so utterly happy and grateful. I thought that I was a lucky enough person to be able to see this and experience that beautiful view, and asked myself why I deserved it and not others. But it’s just the way it is – so I accepted it and just felt really, really grateful. And I told myself that my life is good just the way it is. Keeping that thought strong within myself helps not comparing my life to everyone else’s apparently amazing ones all over the internet, newspapers, TV and stories. In the end – our lives are all amazing in their own ways ❤
Do you sometimes tend to see greener grass all over the place?